Category Archives: Caregiver

What is Next?

As I reflect over the last year, I have learned so much about myself and the relationships that are most important to me.

Taking care of mom and spending time with Hattie have been my primary purpose in life. With Roger’s love and support, we have been able to do that while working full time.

I never expected to be the GCS Virtual contact for Greenville County Schools, but God definitely had those plans in mind for me. When the Pandemic began, I asked the Lord to show me how He would like for me to help and serve others with the gifts He gave me.

1. Roger and I were able to care for Hattie from March 2020-June 2020: Papa and Frannie Daycare. That is the best job of our careers. We had the most fun singing, dancing, playing, rocking, strolling, laughing, eating, and sometimes napping with our precious granddaughter, What a gift that time was for us! Picking her up from Daycare and spending time with her in the afternoon is the highlight of mine and Roger’s lives.

2. Mom fell and broke her hip in May 2020. Encouraging her through phone calls and visits to the doctor while being isolated during the Pandemic was a huge challenge. It is a miracle she survived and thrived during that time and I owe it to the wonderful tender loving care she received from her therapists and caregivers. She had COVID in January and recovered from that, but lost her teeth while she was sick. She lost over 40 pounds since then. She gets her new teeth this week, so hopefully she will be able to eat again and gain her weight back. I have been on an emotional roller coaster every week as we face new obstacles together.

3. When my boss and Associate Superintendent asked me to assist with the Greenville County Schools Virtual Program in August of 2020, I gladly accepted the project. Little did I know that I would be glued to my computer every day for hours on end enrolling students into Virtual Program, answering emails, and training clerks/counselors/parents how to use Parent Backpack. I read heartbreaking emails from parents and students. I sympathized with clerks and counselors, I encouraged Virtual Admins, Director and Executive Director during really really hard times. I can’t believe all that we accomplished as each day and sometimes each hour brought another set of challgenges and opportunities to grow as a compassionate person. Honestly, some days I felt like I couldn’t breathe, there was so much happening at once.

I turned 60 in February 2021. This is a new chapter, a time to think about the next part of my life. I have been doing a lot of soul searching.

What do the next 40 years look like for me?

What am I put on this earth to do?

How can I serve others and use the gifts the Lord gave me to honor Him?

I’m waiting and listening for my next steps.

I would love your feedback and your suggestions about what is next for me.

Happy Mother’s Day!

Slower Pace of Life: Being Present in the Moment

I have found a slower pace of life. While my days and nights are still full of activities and projects, the demands and pressure are different. I can truly appreciate this season.

I’m so thankful for these two books which have influenced me greatly. I highly recommend them if you would also like to learn how to savor the moment:

Whispers of Rest by Bonnie Gray

Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist 

Here are a few examples of how I treasure the time I have on this earth:

  • Taking care of mom and filming her Facebook Live Videos each week: Frankie’s Encouraging Words, has been a huge blessing to mom and to me. We love hearing from old friends from Gaffney and reading how she is inspiring people from all over the country.
  • Working on education initiatives with the greatest school district in the world fulfills my souls’ longing to help students be successful in life.
  • Supervising well-prepared student teachers from the most reputable clinical education program in our state allows me to advise eager young teachers and partner with talented Mentor Teachers in our district.
  • Spending quality time with Roger is such a gift. We absolutely love going downtown to listen to live music and explore different restaurants with our good friends.  Roger had Melanoma surgery in March and we are ever so thankful he is cancer free!
  • Walking Ruby each morning and evening is the perfect way to spend time with neighbors and enjoy time in nature.
  • Celebrating special occasions with Jake, Brancey and Nick makes me appreciate every minute I get to spend with them.

Thank you for reading and let me know if I can help you on your journey!

 

Delight, Beloved, Joy

A well loved woman who chooses joy naturally blesses others like a river being filled by a refreshing spring rain.

Each week, Mom’s videos showcase her contagious joy and have blessed hundreds of people via social media. Last week we featured School Stories, A Trick the Dr. Played on Dad When Johnny was Born, and Beauty Secrets. (Vaseline and Cotton Ball sales increased in the Upstate!)

Frankie’s Stories

Whispers of Rest reflections and activities required drawing yourself as a little girl with all the experiences, people, color, places, foods, and music that brought you joy. As I drew mine, it reminded me of our VIP interviews in first grade and the graphic organizers we made as we interviewed our Star of the Week. We wrote sentences about the VIPs favorite things and each student wrote something we liked about that person and bound it into a book. I hope my students still have theirs.

Spending time with April from church and talking about how amazing it feels to rest and breathe and listen was a treat as we enjoyed breakfast at Biscuit Head. I’ve had the BEST time talking to friends and just being in the moment.

Reconnecting with my first grade teaching buddy, Pat Sandzen, and her family brought back so many great memories. She has the gift of hospitality and just walking into her house just makes you feel warm and welcome. What a great mentor she was to me at Palmetto Primary and in life. Loved celebrating Sig and Alice’s engagement with them!

Hiking at Paris Mountain State Park each am with Ruby was amazing!

I even saw my Paris Elementary students there! Also, I was able to watch Dr. Julie Hartman teach her Masters Students from Anderson University about the ecosystem as we hiked Sulphur Springs Trail

Dr. Bill Taylor is mom’s Doctor and is the kindest man. We love to visit him. She had a good report then off we went to celebrate at Happy Hour.

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Today, I was able to take mom to her Bible Study at Gail’s House. It was lovely and we studied the 13th chapter of 1 Corinthians on Love and spoke of Spiritual Gifts. I’m so glad I was able to meet mom’s friends who had been praying for me, unbeknownst to me.

I’m so glad to hear from many of you who are taking time for TLC and rest as you restore your soul.

Thank you for the opportunity to share!

“Better” and the Story of Frankie and Johnny

This past week I was supposed to travel to Sonoma Valley and train customers, a trip of a lifetime.

Instead, I chose what was “Better.” I went to a Retina specialist appointment, to the Audiologist (again) and to the Beauty parlor with my mother and took her to visit friends.

We recorded the love story of how mom and dad fell in love at Limestone College in the video of the week Frankie and Johnny Part 1 and Part 2 and wrote cards to her friends.

Our sweet neighbors came over and brought their dogs and children to play in the backyard while we sat and chatted. I literally have not done this in years. Children and dogs and good friends on a beautiful day. #noregrets

I even convinced Roger to go to Caesar’s Head with me after he got home from work one day. He told me my retirement is messing up his after work nap schedule, but agreed to go!

Mentoring through the Mentor Upstate Program has helped me keep my foot in the door at schools and interact with students over the last 4 years.

My Mentee loves dogs (her puppy died) so I brought sweet Ruby to meet her this week. I would say it was a huge success!

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My long time friend and teaching partner, Dr. Julie Hartman, visited on Friday and we shared our hopes and dreams for children in Greenville County.

Roger and I istened to music in downtown Greenville on Friday night and saw my dear friend who I vacationed with each year growing up. Our dads were best friends from the Spartanburg Herald Journal.

Finally, we walked in the Heart Walk with Roger’s sweet friends from Greenville HeartLife and enjoyed a leisurely brunch laughing and eating tons of yummy food.

Being so intentional with my time as I choose what is “Better.”

Questions:

What is one thing you can do today that brings you peace and joy?

Spend time on what really matters- love, relationships, and nurturing your soul. Listen to music that inspires you, enjoy nature or exercise or read, watch a movie, rest.

Thanks for your time! I hope “better” days are ahead for you.

Come to Me: Day 4

As I have been walking Ruby, our new 5 year old Beagle, I am training her to “Come.” My niece raises Beagles and gave sweet Ruby to us. I asked her advice about how to get Ruby not to tug and pull on our walks. She told me to say her name first then the command. “Ruby, Come.” Then I should let up on the leash and reward her with a treat when she comes.

This is exactly what I was doing with my life. The Lord spoke so clearly to me that I needed to “Come and trust Him” as I care for my mother and family. I, like Ruby, was being stubborn and wanted to stay in my corporate job with the people I love and work with tech companies around the country, but the Lord said no, quit striving for excellence in business and take care of your family. So I did.

He is clearly rewarding me with treats: rest, clarity, purpose, and gifts to glorify him. I dug in my heels and tugged and pulled against his command to follow His lead. When I finally relaxed and followed His call on my life just as Ruby is learning to relax and respond to my voice, the reward has been glorious.

It takes time and patience when in training to hear the Master’s voice. Then courage to actually obey.

Prioritize your well-being and let go of what is too heavy for you. Be kind to yourself. Spend time with someone you love.

Write a letter to Jesus using the word prompt: Come. This is like the writing exercises we did with my precious first graders.

“Come to me all who are weary and carry heavy burdens and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28-29

Encouraging Words with Frankie and More Thoughts from Whispers of Rest

Mom and I had so much fun making our first Facebook Live Episode of Encouraging Words with Frankie.  In case you missed it, I’ll add the link: Click HERE to view. I also added the video below.

Day 3 of Whispers of Rest really spoke to me. “Come away with me by yourselves to a quiet place and rest awhile.” Mark 6:31

It is easy to be pulled away by busyness and stress, but it takes a toll on us.

What if God’s plan for us is not to be more busy but to be more loved?

Give yourself permission to step away and make some time to enjoy what fills you up.

Where do you experience God’s peace and rest?

What would your special time look like?

Breath Prayer:

Breathe Jesus’ name in and breathe out something you are thankful for.  Rest.

Loving my time with Mom, Roger and our sweet Ruby walks daily, breathing and resting.

Macular Degeneration Tips:

Talk to your eye doctor about vitamins. This is a hereditary disease. I take the Macular Health Formula Vitamins that my eye doctor recommended.

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Mom had 2 cataract surgeries that helped for a little while, then had the shot in her eye.

Nothing really helped.

We bought every type of magnifier, glasses, lights, computer to TV enlarger, etc… and her site continued to fail.

Now she sees only a fog or mist and can distinguish forms. She no longer reads, but I did get her books on tape from SC Library.

We have also worked with the SC Commission for the Blind.

Good News! She can hear, thanks to Davis Audiology and their hearing aides and technology!

Check out Mom and Dr. Maggie

Have a great day, hear your world!